Dear Young Black Men Looking for a Young Black Woman, PT.2

In response to my other post, my good friend Mike suggested I give an example of what an ideal B.A.S.P would look like. I can only speak for myself, but I imagine most B.A.Ps feel the same way. I have had plenty of time to ponder this question of my ideal guy. Please note that most baps have a point of reference whether they know it or not. sometimes its their father or uncle etc, sometimes its a rapper, i came to the conclusion that it is only natural to base it off of what i know, which in my case is my father. now lucky for me, he is a wonderful man to my mother, me and my sister along with the other women in his family. So that is my point of reference. so i guess that is the platform from which all else begins…

1. get to know me.

this means aside from my name, number, and profession. you should be interested in who i am at my base and where it all came from. where i grew up, my family life, childhood and important experiences are all crucial to who i am now. so if you dont know anything about my past, how will you know me presently and most importantly how can you be a part of my future?? some baps might have things they do not wish to disclose about their past and you must respect that and hopefully get to a place where she will lower that guard. so if information does not flow freely, do not feel discouraged.know the people in my life, know whats important to me. know my goals, dreams and aspirations. know what i believe. you cannot do this all by simply asking questions soo…

2. spend time together!!!

talking on the phone, emailing, texting, aiming etc is all fine and dandy, but at the end of the day, we need to spend time together. period. you need to see me, i need to see you. we need to laugh. you need to notice my mannerisms, i need to notice yours. i need to study your behavior and vice versa. no technology can be a substitute. my theory is at the end of the day, if all man made things were to fall away and dissappear, what would be left? me, you, the sky, water,trees and animals. and we would have no clothes on. lol. you might laugh, but tis’ true!! so to me, these are the only important things. all other nonsense is unneccesary.

3. ACCEPT ALL

once you get to know me and we are spending time together…hate it or love it, take it or leave it. thats my motto. what you see is what you get. all that you have learned about me and even what you haven’t is ME. so there is no picking and choosing what you like and do not like and what you would like to change. it does not work that way. you must accept all of me. head to toe, inside and out. my hair, makeup, clothes,activities, hobbies..all of it. just take it. this doesnt mean staying with me and complaining all the time. this means loving it unconditionally. my b.a.s.p should be someone i can bare all too and not have to worry about opinions. even if i show another side of myself to the world. i should be able to show you all sides. this is pretty much it but….

4. be yourself too

do not let “you” become “me”. i know a lot of people say lets be one together…nope. i dont believe that.you should be a team and “together”, but i believe this is a common missunderstanding that is a reason, esspecially in modern western civilization for so many divorces and so much drama surrounding “love”. i do believe in this concept, however i think we have twisted it into some fairytale, whimsical dream so that when it does not happen the way we want it to…we are heartbroken, depressed, anxious, divorced, separated and the list goes on. man and woman were created obviously for one another, but we must acknowledge ourselves at the same time. you may have to sacrifice small things here and there, but your happiness should NEVER be compromised. you of course have to find out what really makes you happy, and that could take some time, but it is well worth the search. now, what does this have to do with getting a b.a.p?

in the year 2008, we have managed to complicate things beyond comprehension leaving both men and women grappling for answers. my solution is simple. ill be there for you and you be there for me. food.fun.shelter.communication.= the basics.( i really grasped this while watching man vs. wild on the discovery channel) everything else is for the birds. in my b.a.s.p, i need you to lead and also be leadable. see me as your equal and respect me. and as for the here and now where most people my age are not looking to get married right now necessarily, THESE RULES STILL APPLY. they really apply to any relationship, friendship or otherwise, give and take. it is quite simple. balance. mathematics. ying and yang. when all else fails and you get confused, break it down to the basics. you should care about my well being and naturally i will care about yours. so when i find this person, i will crown him my b.a.s.p.

now that the foundation is out of the way…there are a few superficial things that i attribute to the fact that i am a modern african american female in western civilization and a product of commercialism along with other histories…..LOL. in my b.a.s.p as far as SWAGGER goes…. (if you cant tell, thats my new fav word) my ideal would be the following…

1. now notice in the acronym b.a.s.p… the first word is BLACK. this is my preference, for reasons that would take about 10 posts to explain. i make this clear because there are b.a.ps that are shallow and discriminate in the black race….nope. not me. i like them ALL. yum. i am light bright but i love all shades of chocolate. really. there is some warmth that exudes from all shades of brown. even though we might be called black (another 10 post subject)….

2. STYLE: from head to toe. for some b.a.ps this may not be an issue, sorry. this is one of my guilty pleasures. to me it says you care about your appearance and are interested and aware of the current state of fashion.

• HAIR: whether you have dreads, an afro, curly bush, simple cut… KEEP A SHAPE UP.(or whatever you call it depending on where you are from) it is very sexy to see that sharp line outlining your cute face. this includes facial hair, which is also sexy. but if you don’t like it, and don’t have any that’s cool too.
• SKIN: use lotion! even if its the 99 cent kind, slather it on!! we want to see that brown glisten! not lookin chalky!! vasoline! queen helene! cocoa butter! anything!
• NAILS: hmm just keep em clean. im not fond of guys getting manicures, but if that floats your boat…. so be it. now pedicures… i will make you an appointment when i make mine! because in the summer months if you plan on having them thangs hang out… keep them looking presentable!!! no polish necessary.
• LIPS: chapstick!! i use to think it was wierd for guys to whip out chapstick, that was until i reached kissing age! MOISTURIZE! i do not want to see skin hangin off of your mouth! i will run away. seriously. and licking your lips is sexy but saliva will not cut it. CHAPSTICK: the anti-crust. love it, embrace it!
• SCENT: extra credit!!! as long as you do not stink, we are cool. but i swear, i whip my head around to take a peak when i am in a public place and a man walks past me and i get a whiff of goodness. HALLELUJAH! or when i hug you and my nose is pleased. it really does it for me. this is definitely a way to rack up points. but do NOT get carried away, smellin like you bathed in sephora’s mens section?….not cool.
• CLOTHES: i feel sorry for guys. i really do, and i have discussed this with my male friends. you all have it bad, because in order for you all to look “dapper”, you all have to drop LOTS of cash, whereas we can get a $10 tee and keep it movin. BUT this is no excuse. your jeans, white tee (that fits you and stops just beneath your waste) is just fine. if you have it like that and can go all out with the outfits, thats fine too. sweaters, jackets, hoodies, all cool, just make sure it fits, it is clean, wrinkle free, does not expose ALL of your ass (because i personally like seeing the just the top of your boxers when you stretch but i like to see a belt too… ) briefs are wierd to me lol. and i hate when guys have their pants all the way down and i see their whole brief ass…eew. keep it clean fellas.pick up a magazine and take a peak, and “do you”, it is something intriguing about the items a guy chooses to represent himself…
• SHOES: this is a weak spot of mine. i am trying to stop this but i cannot. i love when guys have on fly shoes. it really really does it for me. like i said, it sux because i know they are expensive, but they really help. i ALWAYS look at them when you approach. you might not see it and even if i do it when you are walking away, i always look. maybe its because i love shoes in general, i dont know. the only thing i HATE, are mens pointy dress shoes…. NO. those are for ME. stoppit! there is a plethora of fly sneakers around the world. cop a pair. to “snazz” it up, get your fresh tie ups and to really get fancy or go to work or church, please keep the loafers from looking like you are 80.
• ACCESSORIES: hmm. depends. a watch is nice, classic… earrinG, acceptable….. earrinGS, excessive…… fitted…YUM…..other hats…cool….. doo-rags….ONLY IN THE HOUSE….. belts, of course but please stay away from the tacky buckles. i do not need to see any public service announcements strobing above your crotch area…… bracelets, minimal…. neckwear,minimal……ties, yum BUT ONLY WHEN NECESSARY. there is no need for you to have on a tee shirt and a tie!!………socks, yes we pay attn to them too. you cannot wear thick, white sports socks with your semi-dress or dress shoes. patterns are interesting……draws, aka underwear, keep em clean/hole free, that goes for your “wifebeater” too…. sunglasses….cool.
• OTHER: I LOVE TATTOOS.YUM.but some girls do not. to me its like artwork on your body, but i understand if you have a job that does not permit them. or they just aren’t your thing.

3. your interests: you don’t have to have specific interests…just have some! sports and rap will not cut it. books,travelling,experiences,stories,beliefs,opinions are all interesting. if you can tell me about something i don’t know about, even better. don’t bore me or talk about something you THINK i might be interested in. don’t be condescending and spill out your education through blabber about what you have studied. instead infuse your knowledge and education into the conversation in other ways. if i wanted to be in class,i can go back to school, lol. and if you did not go to college, thats 100% fine, but the same rules apply. don’t be afraid to share your opinions and stick to them. don’t look down upon mine. again, be you.

these are the basics for my ideal prince. lmao. i crack myself up. i will probably post more…

Dear Young Black Men Looking for Young Black Women,

This was a post from my old blog, but it was one of my favs, so here it is again…

this is necessary due to recent experiences and conversations with other baps. There is a shortage of eligible male baps. yes. black american princes. excuse me, “basps”, black american straight princes. i love my gay men, but you all can only do so much for me… lol. I have conversations incessantly with females and we all have the same problems. so i propose this guide. it is a step by step system to help basps connect with baps. the world will be a better place.

*NOTE* this guide is for the intelligent black, professional males out there aged 21-30. if you are over 30, its not that you are not eligible, but personally i feel that you should be on a different page than myself. also, my uncles are all over 30…. In addition to this, you will find that all the answers are not here. if you find yourself confused or unable to comprehend, you sir, are not ready for a b.a.p.

step 1: assess your swagger.

my definition of swagger may be different than yours so pay attn. there is no one way to have swagger. it comes in many forms. you do not have to imitate any particular hip hop moguls or throw unnecessary slang into your speech or even fluff your speech with big ass words to impress someone. swagger comes from within and will naturally come about when you are true to yourself. if you like rap music, you like rap. if you like reading Shakespeare, so be it. if you like both, even better. i guess i can only speak for myself but i am sure a bap wants someone that can bring her something she cannot bring herself or something that is different from the next guy. this means that you wearing tight true religion jeans and some fancy ed hardy tee with your draws slightly exposed may not be enough for you to pass the test and receive the digits, essp. if i have never seen you in my life. do some upgrading and diversifying of your swagger and sexiness before approaching a bap, or you will get your feelings hurt. don’t try to be something you aren’t. that’s not cool. if you wear a shirt and tie to work, that’s you, if you don’t, that’s you too.

questions to consider: do you stink? does your breath stink? how does she look? is she in a hurry? are you ALOT older than her? do you own a linen two piece? is she smiling when you say hello to her? are you too close for comfort? did she say she has a boyfriend? are you touching her? are you looking at her like she is a piece of meat?

parts of your swagger:
your appearance: hair,clothes,shoes,scent
your “look”, ie: laid back, aggressive,thuggish,intellectual, stand offish
your interests: music,books,activities,travels,experiences
your speech, vocabulary, tone of voice: what words and phrases are you using?

step 2: the introduction

this is crucial to the whole process. part of diversifying and sexifying your swagger is “stepping up your vocab”. the annoying “HOW U DOIN?” “WHAS YO NAME”"AY, CAN I TALK TO YOU FOR A MINUTE” will get you a *blink*blink*, a click of the heels and an about face. an eye and or neck roll may be included. you must understand that just because you think she is cute, she just might not think the same about you. as a decent man, you must grow some balls, accept this and move on. think of this as the “elevator pitch” used in networking events. if you had one minute to express yourself to a potential employer, what would you say? Would you really say “Hiwhatsyournamecanigetyournumber?” HELL NO. So why would you do it to a girl you would like to get to know? Take your time, assess your swagger, assess the situation, then move in cautiously. Switch up the greeting, make an interesting comment or observation…sumthin!

step 3: the interaction and exchange

be confident, but don’t get too fresh. give her some space. you approached her, now give her time to assess you. too much pressure is a HUGE turn off. in trying to get information you can detect whether or not she is interested. if she is giving you short and choppy answers, abort the operation! if she is smiling and actually engaging with you, then proceed with caution. here’s a huge tip. If she mentions a boyfriend, BACK UP. I have had guys ask if I had a boyfriend, even if i didn’t, i would say i did to get them to leave me alone. then they have the nerve to say “well can we be friends?” NO NO NO NO NO. If a girl wants to talk to you, she would not tell you she has a boyfriend!!!! DUH!! These are important signs. If all is well you have two options. 1. if this is a quick introduction on the street or in the club, and contact information is needed, then you can simply ASK how she would like to proceed. it is simple ” should i give you my contact information or would you like to give me yours”. it is 2008 people, a screen name, email etc will work if the digits are hard to come by. If you have plenty of time, or you know for sure you will see her again, wait to exchange information. it wont hurt and again, she will appreciate you wanting to contact her in more ways then calling and having breathing sessions, although a call is better than a text…

stay tuned for PART II. in the meanwhile, enjoy this comic relief and how NOT to approach a BAP.

Dear People who use the terms “Good Part” and “Bad Part” when speaking of Washington, D.C,

Yes, I understand what you mean. You are more likely to hear about shooting, poverty, drugs, terrible education systems, and the list goes on, when one speaks of what we all know is Southeast, Washington, D.C. But this does not mean when I tell you I was born and raised in and around this area, you can say to me: “Oh I like D.C, but only the “good” parts, because you can pass a light and then it’ll be a really bad neighborhood”. -_- People live there you know!? And you don’t know where I live, so did you ever think you could be offending me? Or do you care? I am tired of when someone asks me what part of D.C I live in and I tell them Southeast, I get looked at sideways. Now I do stay in an odd part of Southeast that has been somehow preserved with nice family homes, but still… you don’t know that, so I just think you should keep comments and judgments to yourself. Thank you. And if it is such a puzzle to you as to why D.C has “good” and “bad” part, and the “bad” is only 10 mins south of THE CAPITOL OF THE UNITED STATES OF AMERICA, I would be happy to sit and have that conversation with you. Until then, a simple “ok” when you ask me where I live and I answer “Southeast” will do.

-misskatrinaelise

Dear Demevolist Music Group,

Me likey much! I find myself listening daily to “MTV Cribs” and “Get it Off”. Those are my fav. Others in rotation are “Put it On Me” . If  you didn’t know, I am talking about “First Order of Business”, your latest project. Shoutouts to Eric. I’m proud of you. Keep it up. If someone is reading this letter and is confused, step up your life. Go to www.demevolist.com and figure it out. The website is niiiiiiiiiiiiiice lol. oh! and move your mouse around to experience the 360, it took me a while to figure that out, lmao.

misskatrinaelise

Dear Twitters,

I’m in there like swimwear!

http://twitter.com/katrinaelise

It’s like facebook status stalking times 20!

-misskatrinaelise

Dear People who don’t complain,

You should! I don’t view it as a bad thing, instead I just view it as accountability. It  is what you have to do in order to get what you want. Peep this:

Video about the Racist Receipt

So after watching the video, I immediately went to www.journeys.com and sent a nice little email. See Below:

Subject: Racial Nonsense
Message: I recently heard a news story about a store of yours in Kansas City. A racial slur was printed on a receipt given to a young black man. I don’t want a gift certificate or anything, and I hope you have heard about this, I am just wondering as a concerned consumer what actions are being taken against this nonsense. The answer will determine where I spend my money. Thank You.

The very next day, I received this email:

Dear Katrina,

In October 2008 Genesco learned about an incident that occurred in a Journeys store in Kansas City involving the appearance of a racial slur on a customer’s receipt.  Upon learning of the incident, our corporate office immediately expressed sincere regret for the occurrence and made a commitment to promptly investigate how the incident happened and to identify any and all steps that the company could take to prevent anything similar from occurring in the future.  Though the company continues its efforts to put proactive remedial measures into place, the factual investigation is now complete and has revealed the following details about the incident.

The company’s investigation revealed that the offensive language was entered into the Kansas City store’s register in early September 2008, but was not, at that time, used for a customer transaction.  Rather, one of the store’s employees created an unauthorized and fictitious customer record, using the racial slur as the customer name and associating it with a generic phone number.  On October 17, while processing a customer return, another employee input the generic number in an effort to shortcut the company’s normal return procedure of entering the customer’s actual contact information.  Regrettably, this number pulled up the fictitious and offensive customer record that had sat dormant in the register since early September.

At the time the company learned about these events, the employee who originally entered the offensive language had already been terminated for an unrelated violation of company policy.  The employee who processed the return on October 17 was terminated shortly after the incident was reported.  Though she maintains that she never saw the offensive language and had no intent to use it, her use of a fictitious phone number and/or customer name was itself a violation of company policy.  The company’s investigation did not uncover any evidence that any of the other store employees were involved in the creation or use of the offensive entry or that they were even aware of its existence prior to this incident.

The language was confined to the single register at issue, and records indicate that it was only associated with the one customer transaction on October 17.  The store acted promptly to delete the offensive customer record from the register.

On a broader scale, Genesco’s technology department has installed a program on all of the company’s registers that will prevent the future creation or use of offensive or derogatory customer entries.

As they concluded their investigation of this incident in November 2008, Genesco and its management reaffirmed their profound regret for the distress to the customer and to the entire community that the  incident  caused, and their commitment to pursue the implementation of measures designed to ensure that nothing like it ever happens again.

Thanks,

Director of Customer Service

Nelson Boren

NK

See?! That’s all I wanted. I don’t even shop at Journeys! But it’s about accountability! I charge everyone to hold everyone accountable, and not necessarily about all things racial. It can be anything! I guarantee you, the world will be a better place.

Sincerely,

miskatrinaelise

Dear Charles Hamilton,

Charles Hamilton

The “Every Charles Hamilton Ex-Girlfriend Worse Nightmare” mixtape is CRAZY. I LOVE IT.  but um it should be “worst nightmare”, minor detail though lol. Anyway. I loved Kanye’s 808s and cannot get enough of it so to hear the beats twisted and flipped was a special treat. The concept was unique and made sense, something hard to find these days. So with that said, I encourage everyone to listen, like right now: http://www.zshare.net/download/55807576942a4693/. Also,I enjoy reading your blog, interesting… http://charleshamilton.blogspot.com/

Dear Chrihanna Situation,

oh please. just stop. this is late considering the events occurred a while ago but i feel you still must be addressed. I was waiting to get more information, which is what i think everyone should do but nonetheless… I hear things like “oh we won’t play his music!” really? I doubt it considering I was still jamming to “in the closet” by r.kelly while he was being accused of having sex with a 16 year old… I am just saying that it is quite ironic how we pick and choose what is morally correct. Now granted if Chris Brown hit Rihanna, yes shame on him. It is none of our business though and we need not release fire and brimstone based on so called facts that we do not know for sure. Personally I think that if Chris did hit Rihanna she needs to bring her peeps from Barbados to beat his ass and keep it moving.

-misskatrinaelise

Dear South Africa,

Get ready because here I come! Last summer I had the opportunity to travel to your beautiful land. I was only in Stellenbosch and Capetown so I didn’t get to Johannesburg and Pretoria but I must return. I said it then but now I am sooo convinced. I just saw this documentary: “Blacks without Borders”.

Here is the synopsis:

From filmmaker Stafford U. Bailey, who directed such critically acclaimed documentaries as A Laugh, A Tear; The Other Side of Victory; and The Black Road to Hollywood, comes BLACKS WITHOUT BORDERS – an emotional story about hardship, sacrifice and great rewards. This film plunges into the lives of a group of African Americans who have come to South Africa to find the American dream. These ex-pats have discovered that America is not the only land of opportunity. The boundaries that many of them faced in the United States don’t exist in South Africa. Everyone knows about the deplorable conditions in parts of Africa, but this film captures the wonderful lifestyle South Africa has to offer. We follow these modern day globetrotters all over the country and tour their amazing homes. From an 11,000 sq ft. house that overlooks the Indian Ocean to a 35,000 sq ft. mansion that sits on 700 acres. This film is funny, heartwarming and passionate. It will take you by surprise and leave you deeply moved.

“deeply moved” is right! I am 100% convinced now that this will be my lifetime goal now. It makes so much sense with what I want to do. From business, to culture, to lifestyle, this is where I need to be. I specifically loved this documentary because it focused specifically on African Americans. The key takeaway I got was that you should not go to South Africa expecting to build your way up, but instead go there with an idea and a plan and with the right attitude and plan, you can be successful. Of course everything is different in terms of the way business is done, but I think this will work to most African American’s advantage. There is no ” the man”  idea because you are the man! The sentiment of a black person having to struggle or not having a chance is significantly lower. The government has significantly changed and it committed to a true democracy with justice and equality for all since the Apartheid. The houses were gorgeous and affordable, not to mention the food and wine! My favorite!

There is much research to be done, networking etc, but I am confident that in time i will visit you once again! and stay for a very long time….

I encourage people to see this documentary, it will truly open your eyes (only if you are open to  it) and might motivate you too!

Sincerely,

misskatrinaelise

Dear 2009 Grammy Awards Show,

"Swagger Like Us" Performance

8:00- People really love U2 huh?

8:01- oh haay,I think I like them too. Ooh and I always had a vision of singing and having the lyrics behind me on stage.

8:04- 0_0 Whitney!  is that you!? … did u really need to show us your leg? Whatever, you look decent.

8:06- Hurry up Whitney.

8:07- Jennifer! What are you wearing!!!! Take those napkins off of your chest immediately! But your makeup and hair looks good girl. Aww your boo was about to cry.

8:08-Umm why is “the rock” hosting? Is the economy that bad? Lmao people’s faces in the audience!  No one is laughing!

8:10-What u talkin bout JT? The general store joke?*cricket,cricket*

8:12-Al Green! Aooww! Good or Bad, Happy or Sad…. Still hittin those notes!

8:21- I really like Coldplay. I didn’t know they were all under 30. Hey Jay! I see you! Omg so much swagger. I LOVE it. I also like “That Oprah” by Swizz Beatz feat. Rick Ross over the “Viva La Vida” beat. Lol download it. The hook: “Michael Jordan, Tiger Woods, Im tryna get dat OPRAH!”

8:28- I like Carrie Underwood’s voice and her sparkly mike. That outfit is ugly and looks like a warrior/peasant costume my mom could’ve whipped up for me in the 3^rd grade.

8:32- ooh Cheryl Crow, that gown is pretty. Very Aqua goddess

8:34- Who is this country chick. Get off the stage.

8:44- Kid Rock is becoming more and more random. But I see you Mr. Humanitarian, preach preacher! AMEN!

8:56- Miley Cirus, you are funny looking, and both yours and Taylor Swift’s stylist needs to be hit. You can wear jeans any day and you want to wear them on the grammys?

9:00 – You better sang Jennifer! I love when you do ballads. Not fond of that dress. Sorry… Bless American Idol for finding you.

9:09- I am so over you Jonas Brothers… Stevie!? What are you doing! I know you cannot be that broke. But “Superstitious” is my song… but they are messing it up.

9:26- Heyy Kanye, shiny suit man! Omg that hair!!! Hahhahaaa nappy mullet!  This is a weak performance. Estelle looks like a bubble tinwoman.

9:40- Heeeeyyy Diddy! That lavender looks nice on you J

9:48- Queen! You look “noice”! That blue is lookin all royal.

9:49- Oh shoot! Im feelin the M.I.A/ Swagger mix.  The suits are very nice, and the band. But M.I.A…that outfit really? Girl, go have your baby.

9:52- Wayne, I am glad you did something to those dreads.

9:53- Jim Jones, are you still cursing because you weren’t invited to be on this track? Hahahahaa.

10:02- I like John Meyer

10:06- UNCLE L!!! MWAH.

10:11- Ooh Adele! You have tacky, unnecessarily long acrylic nails!  I want some!

10:19- Gweneth Paltrow, you suck. And look like a disco ball.

10:20- I LOVE PERCUSSION. I really want to play the drums. Who is this?

10:29- J.T & T.I… *blink, blink*. And no one can understand you T.I. Some songs are just not good for performances, and I am tired of hearing “diary” songs from you T.I. “patna”. But you are still a cutie.

10:37- Secretary of The Arts? Hmm I like it. Makes sense. Gimme a job.

10:38- JAIME! Aow sang it!…. ugh I am so turned off by you Neyo nowadays, and get some bass in your voice.

10:47- NOOOOOO !! SWEET CAROLINE!? Will it ever end!?

10:51- Where is Beyonce? Did Etta get to her?

10:54- Ooh my grandmomma loves B.B King.

10:56- People who play the guitar are cool.

11:03-Weezy! Lol you just don’t care what you look like do you? I still like you. You are getting very soulful nowadays, I like it. You have come a long way. I will write you a letter.lol.

11:05-Robin, you are sangin!

11:06- ok New Orleans!

11:09- LMAO. Will I Am wanted to side eye T-Pain. And rightfully so.

11:10- Lil Wayne, you are too far in your career for all those people to be up on that stage. This is not your first award show. Thank you.

11:20- Who is this duet that took all these Grammys and are boring me?

11:24- How did they get all of these Grammys!? Who are they!?

11:30- Wait is that it!? I wanted to hear Whitney sing.